We made direct amends to such people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
In recognition of Alcohol Awareness Month, Retreat at Lancaster County will be providing tips on alcoholism recovery and prevention throughout the month of April.
Step nine is an execution of the acts you prepared for in step eight. In step eight you became willing to make amends, to set aside your ego and your pride, and to start working on building healthy relationships with those who you have harmed in the past. You have already thought deeply about each wrong you committed and each person you hurt through your actions. In this step, it’s time to reach out to these people to start the process. If you didn’t successfully complete step eight you may still feel angry at another person for their role in the wrong. Let this anger go. Only by accepting your wrongs, as well as the wrongs of others can you start to move forward. When you make amends, check your expectations and make sure not to look for anything in return. The person you harmed may not be willing or ready to reciprocate. You must accept that your efforts to make amends may not always result in a rebuilding of the relationship.
You may feel intimidated or nervous about making amends with those you haven’t spoken to in months, years or decades. This is understandable but should not prevent you from moving forward with your actions. Reach out to them over the phone or through email. Ask to meet them for coffee or lunch if possible so you are both in a neutral state of mind. If someone is too far away, try to talk to them over a video chat such as Skype or Google Hangouts. Face to face interaction is the best way to make amends.
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